Stella James'Blog

Are you hiding in pains? Are you being too secretive? Are you suffering in silence? Do you need answers to many questions going on in your head? Are you hiding something? Do you need help but you choose not to seek it? Or you have no idea who to talk to? Is it because of the terrible things you've seen? Or the terrible & unbearable things that has happened to you? Is it because of the hardships or the trials & tribulations you are going through right now? Is it the past? Is it because you don't know how to put them to the person you want to talk to? Or is it that you're afraid to speak up about what's going on with you? There are so many things that makes us secretive, and so many things that makes us introverts overnight, that makes us change suddenly, that makes us act like strangers, so many things could cause them. But you need to remember and know that these are the things we have to pass through, some happened because it's our fate, some it...

When I say you are your own solution, deep inside I know what am talking about. I know you want to say that "GOD is the real solution to every situations in life", I am not disputing that, just read along, you would understand what am saying. You need to understand that it all starts with YOU, Yes YOU. We've all being going through a lot right from the start, and we've all seek solutions to our problems by watching motivating videos, reading impacting books, quotes, blog contents, listening to positive audio, going to the hospital daily, attending seminars, conference, going for counselling, therapy, seeing experienced people and as well going to church, and most especially running to GOD for help. Truthfully, we could all find the solution we're looking for but we need to know that the solution is ABSOLUTELY USELESS if we don't put it into action. A lot of us has gone through many pain-relief videos, audio, movies e.t.c and yet we still find ourse...

                MATURITY GONE WRONG! The wrong side of the word "maturity" y'all don't know. So here it goes, people have defined maturity in different ways, some say maturity is looking away from things you ought to let go, some say maturity is when you're grown enough to be able to access adult stuff, while some say being reserved is maturity. A lot of people have defined maturity in different ways, some are true, while some are.... I don't know...., but there's something I'd like to add about maturity which  I've noticed for quite some time now and I'd like to share it with you all. Well I'd like to add that, maturity is when you have grown to learn & understand how to accept yourself the way you truly are without having to be ashamed, Funny right?...I would explain. People of nowadays most especially "teens and children", they have become so obsessed with the word "Maturity". They want to get to that ...

                                                     FOR HOW LONG ? There are some things we do in our everyday life, that we are not meant to do, and may I ask you; "FOR HOW LONG"? For how long will you keep doing them? For how long will keep procrastinating? For how long will you keep making the same mistakes over and over? For how long will you keep going against the rules? For how long will you keep living a fake life? For how long will you keep holding a grudge against that person? For how long will you keep living in pain? For how long will you keep making the wrong decision? For how long will you keep going against your policy that's meant to help you? For how long will keep hoping, when you are not making preparations and any move towards your dreams? For how long will you keep blabbing and being excited about y...

It doesn't matter what you are facing in life, living a lonely life is not the right option. I know how that feels, you find yourself staying far off from people and it feels like the best thing to do, because your heart is too wounded. But still you need to try as much as possible to try to be social, if not, you would end up sending the right people away, people who are meant to help, build you up, even your helpers or benefactors, you might end up sending them away through your isolated lifestyle. And you can end up regretting that forever. Living this way is more or less like a bondage, no matter what man go through in life, they would always need someone. If you are going to be shattered and broken, someone is behind it and probably yourself, but if you are going to be a better person, someone has to be involved too which is compulsory. You can't be be better and successful on your own. I know it's a bit difficult to be free with people again, but you have t...

YOU CAN'T You can't be perfect You can't stop trying You can't correct everything You can't make everyone love you You can't live without principles You can't give up You can't please everyone You can't disappoint your parents You can't let depression end you You can't follow the ways of people You can't let words get to you too easily You can't be on your own (an outcast) You can't relent You can't be too fragile You can't let people choose for you You can't live a fake life You can't revenge You can't be controlled You can't continue like this You can't forget the foundation You can't reveal your weakness You can't have low self-esteem You can't trust anyone You can't trust yourself You can't neglect who you are You can't runaway from your fears You can't runaway from your past You can't turn back time You can't be conquered You can...

Because they complained about you, you changed too... Let me ask you, are they the one that created you? Are you them? Are they you?  In fact are you sure you are normal at all,  Let me tell you the bitter truth; there's something wrong with you,  The moment you change because of what people say about you. Have you forgotten that there's no other version of you? You can even increase your standard and build up your personality, Thereby making it the version of yourself that people try hard to copy but can't, Because your personality and yourself is unexplainable and breathtaking. Have you forgotten so soon or have you not heard that, The right people ready to accept you for who you are, are just close by.  And you are going to meet them, or they are even there but you are just blindfolded. Sorry if this sounds insultive, but it's the truth. #Think big

I understand you've been betrayed I understand you've been disappointed I understand you've been mocked I understand you've been intimidated I understand you've been condemned I understand you've been forgotten I understand you're messed up already I understand you've been embarrassed publicly I understand you've been abused emotionally I understand you've done and tried everything in your power I understand you want to give up because of the stress I understand you've been abandoned, left behind, left alone I understand you've been misunderstood & it has led to a big damage I understand that everyone has turned their back on you I understand you want to live a closed, secret & private life because of everything you've faced. I understand it's really hard but you know, that's not how it should end. It started roughly though, some, it became rough in the middle, but it shouldn't end that way. It...

Let me ask you? What kind of friends do you have? Do you choose your friends? Do your friends choose you instead? Even if your friends are willing to choose you, are you willing to choose them back? Friends that will stay, will stay, Friends that will leave, will leave, Some will leave when the friendship just starts. Guys! that's life for you! Friends will betray you, Friends will get jealous of you, Friends will deceive you, Friends will break you, Friends will criticize you, Friends will hurt you real bad Friends will do a lot of things, just have to be prepared to get really hurt. But most especially, put a smile on your face, because honestly GOD is the only friend you can have that won't ever do anything bad to you, in fact, you will hurt him instead because he's just beyond perfect. But he won't still leave you, he will forgive you and still be there for you, when you need something he will provide it for you, even before you ask and beyond....